Asking Jesus for What We Want

In yesterday’s message, David looked at two back-to-back Bible stories in which Jesus says,

What do you want me to do for you?

David offered this chart to compare the two stories (from Mark 10:35-52).

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The major takeaway from this story is that no matter what we desire, and no matter our approach, Jesus takes us and our desires seriously. He may redirect our desires towards some good fulfillment that’s in line with his values. Or he may help bring about exactly what we have in mind. But in either case, there are some very valuable lessons we learn when we bring our desires before God and listen for God’s voice.

Suggested Prayer: “Jesus, help me know what I want. Give me courage to name what I want before you.”

What if God was more generous than that?


In James’ teaching last Sunday, he shared a question that he thinks is at the heart of what Sanctuary is all about:

What if God was more generous than that?

This is the kind of question that can help us pause and reflect on what we’re thinking or doing. It’s the kind of imaginative and open-ended question that can help liberate us from our own judgments about ourselves and others.

What if God was more generous that that?

James also posed several generative questions around making resolutions. We recommend taking some time to prayerfully consider these.

1) Where might Jesus want to meet me?

2) Is this resolution rooted in shame?

3) What are the things I count on to sustain me that aren’t helping me stay connected to Jesus?

What if God was more generous that that?

Jesus Uses Some Philosopher's Tricks

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Last week, David’s message included some reflections on Jesus as philosopher and the tricks that Jesus uses to get his audience’s attention. In Luke 12, Jesus teaches about how not to worry, but his message starts off on a bizarre note with his line, “Consider the ravens.” Ravens, known for eating carrion and abandoning their young, would not have been the most hopeful image from creation that Jesus could have picked. But that’s just the beginning of the shocking and humorous lines Jesus throws out.

Here’s a summary of Jesus’ philosophical punch lines:

  1. God provides for all things (so there’s no need to worry).

  2. God even provides food for ravens and clothing (wildflowers) for the grass of the field.

  3. By the way, King Solomon - big thumbs down.

  4. Also by the way, worrying doesn’t do any good. You can’t even do such a small thing as add an hour to your life by worrying!

  5. THEREFORE, God will certainly provide for y’all humans, you of little faith!

To recap, Jesus uses some provocative examples from creation. Then he critiques one of his audience’s big heroes (Solomon). Finally, he backhandedly insults everyone by saying they can’t do anything so small as add an hour to their lives by worrying and that they have little faith!

All of these lines are Jesus’ philosopher moves to wake up his audience so that he can then address the underlying issues related to worry and fear. And now that Jesus gains everyone’s undivided attention, he offers one of the most lovely pastoral lines in the gospels:

Do not be afraid, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the Kingdom!

Next time you find yourself worrying, consider the ravens. Then after you laugh a little, try turning to Jesus to hear his reassuring voice.

Jesus critiques a supposed “hero” of the Bible to explore the connection between God's abundance and being free from worry

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This coming Sunday, Nov. 18 is the Sunday before Thanksgiving. David will be preaching about God’s provision, using Jesus’ teaching on not worrying (Luke 12). We’ll explore the connection between God’s abundance and living free from worry.

One of the surprising moves Jesus makes in his teaching on worry is critiquing a “hero” of the Bible: Solomon. Jesus compares Solomon unfavorably to a field of grass covered in wildflowers. This would have been a rather shocking thing to say. Solomon was widely held as one of the preeminent kings in Israel’s history. Critiquing him would feel like critiquing Abraham Lincoln or Churchill.

Why does Jesus critique Solomon of all people? What’s the connection between Solomon’s pursuit of wealth and worry? And what’s the antidote to worry? All of this and more is the subject of Sunday’s teaching. Join us!

Coming to Terms with Christian Trauma


This Sunday, November 11, we’re going to revisit the theme of Religious Trauma that we’ve explored before. Last year, we provided a 3-part teaching series looking at the topic. You can listen to these teachings on our podcast or find them here:

Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

You can also find this valuable resource that Tom used in Part 1: Adverse Religious Experiences Questionnaire.

Here’s a short note from Tom about the upcoming teaching:

I have (at least) three devoted Jesus-follower friends who get anxious near Bibles, and so can’t read them. A pastor friend gets swoozy (sweaty and woozy) when he hears contemporary Christian worship music, so they sing lots of hymns in his church. I for years hid my science from my faith-community leaders and now feel activated with anger when I remember that environment. The Christian church has traumatized so so many people in our contemporary culture, producing anxiety and fear in many of us who nonetheless attend, and avoidance in many others who stay far from our gatherings. In this Sunday’s message, we’ll explore trauma in the church. We’ll enter a bible story where Jesus champions the cause of a female victim of religious trauma as a guide for illuminating our own stories. We’ll explore how church produces trauma through overt acts of harm, through shame and exclusion, and through intellectual and moral manipulation. And we’ll finish by talking about how to tell if we're affected, and some possibilities for the beginnings of freedom. All in 25 minutes :-) See you Sunday! Tom

Imagination & Hearing From God


In the teaching last Sunday about hearing from God, Adey used the word “imagination.” The use of imagination in terms of our faith may raise some questions. Doesn't imagination mean making stuff up?  If we imagine God speaking to us, is it real?

Walter Brueggemann is a biblical scholar who published a book called The Prophetic Imagination 40 years ago. In the book, Brueggemann describes the crucial role that imagination plays in the biblical prophets’ ability to envision the new world that God was bringing into being. Without imagination, Brueggemann argues, the prophets would not have been able to see or hear from God. It’s not that the prophets were making up reality so much as they were entering into the new reality of God by using all of their human gifts, including the gift and power of imagination.

Here’s one longer quote from Brueggemann:  

The prophet engages in futuring fantasy. The prophet does not ask if the vision can be implemented, for questions of implementation are of no consequence until the vision can be imagined. The imagination must come before the implementation. Our culture is competent to implement almost anything and to imagine almost nothing. The same royal consciousness that make it possible to implement anything and everything is the one that shrinks imagination because imagination is a danger. Thus every totalitarian regime is frightened of the artist. It is the vocation of the prophet to keep alive the ministry of imagination, to keep on conjuring and proposing futures alternative to the single one the king wants to urge as the only thinkable one.

Today, the prophets’ direct experience of God is available to us all. Everyone who wishes to nurture a vibrant faith life with Jesus can use their imaginations to help see, hear, and know God.

Some of us may need to give ourselves permission to try things out, to trust the Spirit’s ability to speak more than we distrust our ability to hear. We may also need to deal with any alarm or anxiety we might feel when engaging the part of our brains and bodies that channels imagination.

And if we ever have an experience with God that we’re not sure about, we can always check it out with Scripture and with friends to make sure it’s on track with what we think God is like.

The great journey and invitation in life is to come into a more full relationship with God, and we can do this by using every aspect of ourselves that God made, including our imagination.  

Good Things Come From Others’ Wisdom

The miracle of changing water into wine, is as much attributable to Mary as it is to Jesus. Yes, Jesus has the power to change water into wine.  But he doesn’t take the initiative to do so. Nor does he want to do it.  It’s Mary who sees the need.  She perceives the opportunity.  She names it with him, and even after he pushes back and calls her “woman,” she figures out a way that he can do it quietly and stealthily with the servants as co-conspirators.

The above quote was from David's teaching this past Sunday.  You can read the full version here, or give it a listen here. Enjoy!  

A Blessing Called Sanctuary

Last Sunday, Adey closed her teaching with a poem entitled "A Blessing Called Sanctuary."  Here it is below.  The source for this poem is this website that offered some Advent reflections.  

A Blessing Called Sanctuary

You hardly knew
how hungry you were
to be gathered in,
to receive the welcome
that invited you to enter
nothing of you
found foreign or strange,
nothing of your life
that you were asked
to leave behind
or to carry in silence
or in shame.

Tentative steps
became settling in,
leaning into the blessing
that enfolded you,
taking your place
in the circle
that stunned you
with its unimagined grace.

You began to breathe again,
to move without fear,
to speak with abandon
the words you carried
in your bones,
that echoed in your being.

You learned to sing.

But the deal with this blessing
is that it will not leave you alone,
will not let you linger
in safety,
in stasis.

The time will come
when this blessing
will ask you to leave,
not because it has tired of you
but because it desires for you
to become the sanctuary
that you have found—
to speak your word
into the world,
to tell what you have heard
with your own ears,
seen with your own eyes,
known in your own heart:

that you are beloved,
precious child of God,
beautiful to behold,*
and you are welcome
and more than welcome

—Jan Richardson
from Circle of Grace

What Limits Your Connection to God?

On Nov. 12, Tom preached on Zacchaeus' encounter with Jesus in Luke 19.  Tom offered some reflection questions we wanted to share.  Here they are below:

Sanctuary Community Church believes that God exists and that God responds generously to those who seek him for help. Many of us, however, don’t experience God this way. This questionnaire invites you to ask yourself Why? What limits or diminishes my ability to experience connection with, or receiving blessing from, God?


Doubt, skepticism; anxiety, fear; Lack (knowledge, instruction, models); flawed knowledge, instruction, or models; trauma; busyness; contentment . . .

What personal/individual limitations have you experienced in the past?  And what about now? 


Family; Political; religious; work; education; economic; identity. How? pushing you out; keeping you in; shame, fear, praise, belonging; flawed beliefs or instruction . . .

What systemic/group limitations have you experienced in the past?  And what about now? 

Adverse Religious Experiences

Last Sunday, Tom introduced the topic of Religious Trauma and provided the following questionnaire.  These questions are meant to stir reflection and aren't intended to be a formal diagnostic tool.  We're happy to hear your thoughts and feedback about what this stirs. 

Adverse Religious Experiences Questionnaire

Do you remember being told that God has negative thoughts or feelings towards you?

Do you have a memory of God’s acceptance of you being brought into question?

Have you experienced shame or humiliation in a religious or spiritual setting or conversation?

Have you ever compromised your intellectual, emotional, or moral self because of religious pressure?

Have you ever been excluded or expelled from participation in religious activities or a religious community?

Have you ever participated in religious practices or activities to avoid trouble, loss, or exclusion/expulsion?

Have you ever experienced abuse (verbal, physical, emotional, sexual, other) in a religious setting or by a religious authority figure?

Have you treated other people in a way you regret because of religious pressure?

Have you been exposed to severe discord or fracture of a religious community?

Have you been exposed to the dismissal or ouster of a religious leader?

If yes to any of the above, do you have strong, easily activated memories of the event or experience?

Do you ever experience anxiety or anger when anticipating being in religious events or settings?

Does being near a pastor or religious leader ever make you anxious or angry?

Do negative anticipations cause you to avoid religious events, settings, people or conversations?


The Challenging Invitation of Jesus' Nonviolence - Some Questions

This past Sunday, I offered some questions to consider as we follow Jesus' into his way of peace and abundance.  Here are those questions.  Send me an email as you explore these - I'd love to hear what you're learning! David (

  • What are the mountains of violence or economic oppression in our world?   How can we live, work, and pray against them?

  • How do our daily choices and habits affect the peace and abundance of other people around the world?

  • Where do the products I buy come from?

  • How are the people treated who make them?  

  • How is the earth affected by the process through which these products arrive for my use?  

  • For those of us with investments, what kind of companies do we have our money invested in, through retirement accounts or other means of investing? Are these companies building peace and justice, or building mountains of oppression?  

  • What kind of media (e.g. books, websites, music, TV, movies) do I use? Who benefits from my engagement with this media?  Does this media contribute to or fight against the mountains of violence and economic oppression?  

Home Life Questionnaire

In a typical moment in David's household, his two boys prepare for battle.

In a typical moment in David's household, his two boys prepare for battle.

In a recent teaching, I mentioned using a Home Life Questionnaire to better understand our kids' perspective. Here are the questions we used. I'm sure there are many others that could be useful for your own home life. Take what's useful and throw out the rest! And comment or email me to let me know how it goes.


Almost always  5

Most of the time  4

Some of the time  3

Not very much  2

Almost never  1


Mom and dad are respectful to me.

Mom and dad are respectful to each other

Mom and dad use kind language with me.

Mom and dad don't yell.

Mom and dad are too controlling.  

I wish we had more siblings (brothers or sisters) to play with.

My brother is kind and respectful to me. 

I am kind and respectful to my brother. 

I have fun playing with my brother. 

I have fun playing with dad.

I have fun playing with mom.

I feel angry about something that happened at home.

I wish I had more control over screen time and sweet things.

I like the dinners that dad or mom makes for us.

I work hard at my chores and am helpful around the house. 

I respond right away when mom or dad asks me to do something.

I feel happy at home.

I feel stressed or worried.

I feel happy at school. 

How I'm Surviving this Election Cycle

by Adey Wassink

My inner gyroscope broke last week. Though I can’t say it completely caught me by surprise, something has happened to me this election cycle. Caring about the outcome of an election is certainly fine. Voting is a privilege that as a woman I will never take lightly.

But this was different. By last week I found myself inhaling Facebook, which for me meant finding which articles were trending and then reading - all of them.  And when I wasn’t on Facebook, I was checking election predictions and breaking news.

My down time, or time when I wasn’t actually in meetings or responding to emails or working on sermons became an obsessive grind.

I was getting increasingly disheartened on multiple levels:  the vitriol that can happen so easily on social media, the crazy ways we debase each other, the racism and sexism and every other ism that seems to be spinning out of control.

It was last Thursday that I decided to get off Facebook. Every time I was tempted to see what was trending, I read a psalm. Psalm 1 gave a picture of

a tree planted by streams of water

     that yields its fruit in its season,

     and its leaf does not wither.

Reading the psalm I could feel my breathing slowing down, my body relaxing a bit.  

Psalm 2 hit me hard:

Now therefore, O kings, be wise; 

     be warned, O rulers of the earth. 

Serve the Lord with fear, 

     and rejoice with trembling.


Politics matter. Standing for justice will always be a mission of the gospel. But winding ourselves up into a frenzy until we become the people we judge, until we start saying the things we regret in ways we regret, until we can’t remember what silence or peace or resting in Jesus means, the system wins and has corrupts our souls.

Tom and I find healing in nature. After church on Sunday we headed out to Nevada, rented a car and are driving to meet friends in the Grand Canyon where we will be unplugged for a few days. Not irresponsibly long, but long enough to remember that a day in God's presence is far better than gold, and long enough to remember that God lifts us up on wings like eagles and hides us in the shadow of his wings, and long enough to remember that there will always be corrupt leaders and unfortunately there will always be suffering.

But maybe if you’re like me, taking a break from the craziness will do some good. Make up your own game. Every time you’re tempted to read another article, take 2 minutes of silence. Or every time you want to go on Facebook, read a psalm first, or pray for a friend, or even better, pray for your enemy.

I think I’m now on Psalm 300. Tom and I are traveling South on Highway 93 to Kingman, Arizona. We are surrounded by stark moonscape mountains with sparse dry vegetation,  the occasional splash of yellow flowers, orange and pink sunset clouds against a steely aqua sky. I hear Tom singing, “I need you, O I need you. Every hour I need you.” I stop and we sing together.

Adey and tom enjoying the grand canyon

Adey and tom enjoying the grand canyon

How to Talk About Race

singing "We Shall Overcome" at our #BlackLivesMatter Celebration service

singing "We Shall Overcome" at our #BlackLivesMatter Celebration service

Following our #BlackLivesMatter Celebration service this past Sunday, we heard from many people asking questions like How do I talk about race? How do I talk to my children about race? What can I do to be a part of the solution?  

There are all kinds of helpful articles, blogs, and books available, and here's one excellent resource:

While this article is aimed at parents, the sayings offer a helpful model for growing in awareness and advancing racial justice.   *DISCLAIMER: no article is "perfect" - there will always be some phrases or ways of saying things that you won't agree with. This is not an endorsement of every phrase or every approach on the Race Conscious website.

If you have thoughts or questions, or wish to share a resource you've found helpful, comment below.  


Last Sunday, we looked at the story when Jesus preached in his hometown, and it turns ugly. Jesus challenges the hometown crowd’s tightly held communal identity. He implies that God’s favor comes to “them” as much as it comes to “us.”  According to Jesus, the good things God brings need not lead us to create an US vs. THEM world.  His hometown audience is less than thrilled with the message.  They respond with rage, and then they try to kill him (Luke 4:16-30). You can listen to the teaching audio here:  LINK.

Jesus offers some other difficult sayings related to the US vs. THEM theme.  Here are a couple examples:  

  • Luke 9:59-60 To another he said, “Follow me.” But he said, “Lord, first let me go and bury my father.” But Jesus said to him, “Let the dead bury their own dead; but as for you, go and proclaim the kingdom of God.”
  • Luke 14:25-26 Now large crowds were traveling with him; and he turned and said to them, “Whoever comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and even life itself, cannot be my disciple.

On the surface, it seems that Jesus is further cementing an US vs. THEM paradigm where all that matters is sticking with his in-group as opposed to a person’s own family.  But in the context of Jesus’ other teachings, these sayings work as cautions against holding onto any commitment that might prevent a person from receiving the life Jesus offers.  Jesus is not against family.  Very often our faith and love are expressed in the midst of family relationships.  But there are times when even family commitments come with a cost of alienating “the other” or creating an US vs. THEM dynamic.  When a family’s well being exists at the expense of those outside that family, it’s a sign of un-health within the family.  Jesus is warning against such shadowy commitments to family that ultimately will not produce life.  

It does not have to be an US vs. THEM world.  We can learn to identify when that perspective is functioning in groups or families or ourselves, and we can work against it.  We can receive all the fullness God has for us even while we hope for that fullness to extend to everyone and anyone.  That is God’s vision for collective identity.   

Rules for Life From Jesus' Sermon on the Mount

Here are some of the rules for life that Jesus invited his listeners, in his Sermon on the Mount, to put into practice. My (Tom's) invitation to you this past Sunday was to pick one or, if you’re feeling ambitious, two, to try out for one week. Be intentional with the practice, trying to do it as much as possible, and see what happens. What do you learn about yourself? About human nature? About the priorities and heart of Jesus? What would it mean for you to keep the principle going beyond your week’s trial period? 

1. Love your enemies

2. Do good to those who hate you

3. Bless those who curse you

4. Pray for those who mistreat you.

5. If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other. 

6. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt.

7. Give to everyone who asks you

8. If anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back.

9. Do to others as you would have them do to you.

10. Do not judge

11. Do not condemn

12. Forgive

13. Give

14. First take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove

the speck from your friend’s eye

15. Rejoice when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil

against you because of me

16. Let your light shine before others

17. Be reconciled with your brother or sister

18. Settle matters quickly with your adversary

19. If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away

20. Do not swear an oath at all

21. Do not turn away the one who wants to borrow from you

22. Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others, to be seen by


23. Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, but store up for yourselves

treasures in heaven

24. Do not worry about your life, but seek first his kingdom and his


25. Ask, seek, and knock

26. Watch out for false prophets

Hands On Faith, Making it Practical

This past Sunday we reviewed a number of our Hands On Faith service activities over the past year.  We also looked at Matthew 25 where Jesus says, "Just as you did it to the least of these, you did it to me."  

What does it actually look like to put this into practice?  Where do we go from here?  Besides joining in the church's occasional service efforts, what else is there?  Here are some thoughts:

Last Sunday we single packed over 1400 rolls of toilet paper for the Johnson County Crisis Center.

Last Sunday we single packed over 1400 rolls of toilet paper for the Johnson County Crisis Center.

  • Just try something.  We can sometimes get sidetracked in attempting to find the "perfect fit" for volunteering.  But often we can just simply try out a volunteer opportunity, see if it works, and go from there.
  • Do it with friends or family.  Find a volunteering group.  Maybe your small group in the church could join a Habitat build for 4 hours on a Saturday afternoon.  (You can contact Habitat directly to set it up!)  Or maybe you could visit a nursing home with family members once a month to simply hang out.  
  • Put a line item in your budget for giving to the vulnerable.  If you're like me, you're often asked to give to various organizations doing great work.  Or sometimes you might be approached by individuals asking for money.  It's a lot easier to respond to requests if you've already made room in your budget.  If you have $50/month to give away, then you can treat these requests as fun opportunities to give great gifts.  (A shameless plug for giving to our church-- Sanctuary is committed to giving away at least 10% of all that we take in.  That's $40-$45K each year.  When our whole church gives away thousands of dollars, it makes a big impact on the organizations, and people take notice of a church doing it.  So in your budgeting, think about not lowering your church giving for other giving.  Instead, perhaps you can skip a coffee or a meal to pad your giving budget.)
  • Think long term, and build relationships over the long haul.  It's the long term relationships and habits we form that make the greatest impact.